Sex with a Single Mom

There is an amazing pool of women to date that some guys don't realize exist. However, these women come with strings attached besides the ones on the ends of their IUDs--they are called kids.

While plenty of single moms prefer long-term relationships, others will say that's the last thing they want. Having a trustworthy guy to meet for sex and conversation every couple of weeks could more than fill some single mom's bills.

While a man who dates a woman without children should be aware of things like restaurants, movies and condoms, a man who dates a single mom needs to know about babysitters. Unless the kids are spending the weekend with their dad, every date you have with a single mom is going to be a threesome--with you, she and the babysitter. No babysitter, no date. So learn about them.

The first words out of your mouth after a single mom agrees to go out with you should be, "Can I help pay for the sitter?" and "This isn't the time for me to be meeting your kids, but I can pick up a pizza that you can take up to them for dinner."

The next thing you need to know when dating a single mom is how kids can suddenly spike temperatures or start throwing up, especially when they don't want their mom to go out. And you won't believe the nasty array of colds, coughs and flus that kids bring home from school and pass on to their parents. So the next two things you need to have ready when dating a single mom are the patience of Job, and a strong hand that you can go home to jerk off with. No matter how important you might be in a woman's life, you are not going to come between she and her kid's viruses. And if you do, then you might wonder about her character and take heed.

Until you've been dating for a long time, save yourself and her the agony of getting super-expensive tickets for this show or that. It will just make her feel like crap if she has to cancel at the last minute, and it will bother you more than if the casualty was only dinner and a movie.

If she suddenly has to cancel because of Junior's croop, you won't be anybody's chump if you leave a bouquet of flowers at the door with a note saying how much you look forward to seeing her soon. Yes, some women are flakes and will use their children as an excuse, but you'll be onto that type soon enough. Plenty of women without kids are flakes as well.

Do not try or expect to meet her kids for a really long time. It's simply not fair to them if they become attached to you and you suddenly end up out of the picture. But this doesn't mean that you can't help from afar. If you've been out a few times and the chemistry seems promising, find out if her car needs an oil change that she hasn't had the time to do. And if time and money are in short supply, ask about the things her kids like to eat that are easy to fix. The 12-box carton of Mac'N'Cheese and frozen chicken'pot'pies from Costco might be calling.

At the end of a date, ask if she needs to stop by the grocery store on the way home. If that's the last thing she wants to be reminded of when she's out with you, she'll let you know.

If you do meet the kids, don't go sticking your tongue down their mom's throat when they're around. Don't try to buy them off with gifts. Your friendship and concern about them is more than enough. Do introduce yourself as one of their mom's friends, but nothing else. From their experience in school, they will understand that some friends stick around, and others move away.

And if the two of you start having sex, keep in mind that you'll need to become logistical wizards. It's that way when kids are around. And don't assume she remembered birth control just because she's a mom.