Male Survey

This totally anonymous survey asks 25 or so questions about sex. Your answers will be helpful to me and I hope you find it interesting. Your email address is automatically blocked, so I can't tell who sent it unless you enter it at the end in the comments/suggestions box.

Feel free to skip any questions that you'd rather not answer. Some of your answers might be used anonymously in the next edition of The Guide, on this website, or in another book I write on sex. If so, the only identifying data I would include would be your age and sex.

Your answers aren't sent until you hit the SUBMIT button at the bottom of the page. Thanks so very much for your time and help!

The Survey

How old are you?

Please let us know the country where you live.

Please describe yourself as being totally straight, mostly straight, it depends on the day and time, mostly gay, or totally gay.

Are you circumcised (cut) or uncircumcised (uncut)?

Are you using a desktop, laptop, iPad/Tablet or phone to answer these survey questions with?

How much sex do you think you have you been having during the past six months compared to your peers--less, more, about the same?

If you are currently in a relationship, approximately how long have you been together?

When you are in a relationship, how often does your partner give you a handjob to completion?

Have you had a partner who would grind her clitoris into your pubic bone during intercourse? If so, to what extent and was it different than with other partners?

During intercourse, do you or your partner stimulate her clitoris with your fingers?

If you've had different partners, has intercourse felt better with certain ones? If so, please explain why you think this was so.

Have you ever taken Viagra or any of the other boner drugs? If so, please describe what it was like.

What are the best and worst parts of giving a partner oral sex.

Please describe the situation and what it felt like the first time you were able to feel between a woman's legs?

Do you have a preference for whether a partner shaves her pubic hair?

Can you recall a time when you were having sex that was particularly funny or embarrassing?

Are your erections as reliable as you would like when you are having partner sex? Any thoughts about this?

Are there things you do to help maintain your erection while putting on a condom? If so, please describe?

If you use condoms, is there a particular size and/or shape that works best for you?

If you have hooked up with someone for only a night, what was the sex like?

If you shave, trim or wax any part of your body besides your face, what do you do and what do you think about the results?

Have there been any particularly uncomfortable or challenging situations when you've had an unwanted erection?

Do you watch porn when you are alone? If so, what kind do you prefer and about how many hours a week do you watch?

Do you watch porn with a partner? If so, what kind of porn do the two of you watch and how often?

Please describe your experiences with anal sex.

How many times a week or month do you masturbate when you are not in a relationship?

Do you take any drugs or medications, e.g smoke pot or take drugs for ADHD, depression or epilepsy? Please explain if it has any effect on your sex life.

When you were growing up, was there any adults who were helpful in explaining to you about sex and lovemaking--as opposed to just the basics about sperm and eggs?

Approximately how many serious sexual relationships have you had in your life (with someone who you were exclusive with for at least 3 to 6 months, and who you had an emotional connection to)?

Approximately how many sexual partners have you had where there was not a strong emotional connection (fuck buddies, one-night stands, friends with benefits, etc.)

Have you had kissed or had sex with another male? If so, please explain the situation(s) and what the experience was like for you.

Are you able to come when you'd like during intercourse? If not, are you faster than you'd like, or slower?

Considering your cousins, brothers, sisters, aunts, uncles, parents, grandparents, and even foster parents, what is the closest family relation with whom you've had sexual or romantic contact?

If you have any questions, comments or suggestions about the survey or website, here's the place to do it! (I read them all and take your comments very seriously. Much appreciated and thanks for taking the survey, Paul, author of 'The Guide.')