Some women have never seen a man masturbate, and some men have never seen a woman masturbate. Yet plenty of us would find it erotic to watch a partner do it. That's what this chapter is about.
Many of us have the fantasy that once we get into a relationship, we won't be playing with ourselves anymore. In some cases, that's how it is for the first couple of months or years. You either don't have the urge to masturbate, or can't remember why you used to do it so often. In other relationships, which can be just as satisfying, you don't really stop masturbating. And some women report that they actually start masturbating more once they are in a satisfying sexual relationship.
While there are plenty of times when masturbation is something you will prefer to do alone, there are other times that doing it with or in front of a partner can be extremely satisfying.
For straight people, masturbating in front of a partner can sometimes take a lot of trust. That's because masturbation tends to be more self-disclosing than other types of sex. It can also leave you feeling vulnerable if your partner finds you doing it: "Oh, hi, honey, I was just sitting here in front of the computer jerking off."
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