Disabled & Horny
The Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability For everyone who lives with disabilities, chronic pain, and illness, from three excellent and very knowledgeable authors.
AbleData--The Mother of Disabilty Resource Websites AbleData.com is not a sex-related website for people with disabilities, but it does seem to be the biggest, baddest source of resources of any kind for people with any kind of disability.
ADD and Sex Amy Stapleford is one of the few sex educators today writing about ADD and sex. Scroll down this page on her blog to find information about everything from tips on focusing during sex to sexual side effects from common ADD medications.
ALS-Amyotrophic Lateral Sclerosis or Lou Gehrig's Disease and Sex From the Journal of Neurology, and article titled "Sexuality in patients with amyotrophic lateral sclerosis and their partners." Unfortunately, unless you have a subscription or are at a library with free access to the Journal of Neurology, it will cost you $34.95 USD to read the entire article.
Amputee's Guide To Sex A book of poetry by Jillian Weise, a woman whose leg was amputated.
Articles about Sex Toys for People with Disabilities An excellent and very accessible set of articles from the people at one of the best sex toy stores anywhere, Come As You Are.
Arthritis and Sexuality A brief overview of the issues involved.
Arthritis and Sexuality--Stiff and Horny? There is a very good publication from the Arthritis foundation titled, "Guide to Intimacy and Arthritis". It used to be called “Living and Loving: Information about Sexuality and Intimacy," but that title was apparently too scandalous. You can also order by phone at (800)283-7800.
Aspergers, Autism-Spectrum and Intellectual Disabilities An entire list of excellent resources on sexuality and Autism-Spectrum conditions.
Assistive Technology for Computers and Printed Material While not about sex per se, sex with others requires connecting with others first, and sex with yourself can often be aided by watching videos or images on the Internet. The amazing Dr. Ken Pope has assembled a whole list of resources about assistive technology.
Blindness and Sex Nerve.com's Lisa Carver does a fascinating interview with a person who is blind.
Teaching Your Blind Child about Sexuality This is based on notes taken during a parenting session by Judith Lesner on teaching sexuality to blind children. You might need to scroll down a bit before reaching the article.
Brain Injury This takes you to our separate links-section on sexuality and brain injury.
Cancer and Sexuality Takes you to the "Cancer and Sex" section of links.
Cerebral Palsy and Sexuality An excellent resource by Mark Lindenberg and the Ontario Federation for Cerebral Palsy.
Crohn's Disease, Colitis, IBD and Sexuality A helpful booklet titled "Sexual Relationships and IBD (Inflammatory bowel disease)you can download from The National Association for Colitis and Crohn's Disease, UK.
Chloe Magazine on Love and Relationships Not nearly enough articles, but the few that are here are interesting.
Cystic Fybrosis and Sexuality for Adolescents Pretty basic, but still helpful and it has a very sex-positive photo of a young couple on the front. On the other hand, why do they show helpful intercourse positions in the brochure for adults, but not in the one for teens?
Cystic Fybrosis, Fertility and Sexuality for Adults Does as good job as far as it goes. But don't people with CF like oral sex? Hint, hint. And what would the effect be if you took a hit off of your short-acting bronchodilator a few seconds before you had an orgasm?
Deafness and Sex for Students A list of resources from Jamie Berke, not that there are a lot of resources to list.
Deafness and Blindness Sex-Ed Program This article describes a model sex education program developed for youths and adults who are deaf-blind by the Helen Keller National Center for Deaf-Blind Youths and Adults.
Dementia and Sex A fine article by Lara Riscol on a topic that is seldom written about.
Disability and the Art of Kissing A series of concise responses to questions about sex and intimacy by author/speaker Gary Karp.
Epilepsy-The Impact of AEDs on Male Sexuality and Reproduction "The most clinically prominent effects of anticonvulsant medications on endocrine function are those on sexuality and reproductive function."
Epilepsy and Sex from Epilepsy Matters Epilepsy can impact sexuality in a number of ways, form side effects of the drugs you take to what kind of epilepsy you have. Here is a helpful summary from the Canadian Epilepsy Alliance.
Epilepsy and Sex from the Epilepsy Foundation A summary of issues that are good to be aware of.
Epilepsy, Women and Sexuality An excellent article in WebMD by Charlene Laino.
Fibromyalgia and Sex Dr. Yvonne Fulbright summarizes some of the issues.
Heart Attack or Stroke Some friendly tips on sex after heart attack or stroke from the Heart and Stroke Foundation.
Good Vibrations Archives on Sex and Disability Covers a smattering of subjects, from "how to have great sex when your back hurts" to "caretaking and lovemaking."
Homosexuality, Bisexuality and Disability Not a huge number of links, but a good beginning!
Hypospadias Takes you to this site's on page on hypospaidas.
Hypospadias (heainfo.org) The best web resource for men and the parents of boys with hypospadias. epispadias. A very competent and helpful website.
Intersex Info and Peer Support While Intersex is not a disability, this is a great online community for people with Intersex conditions to connect with other people who have 'bodies like theirs.'
Love Swing Not to be confused with swinging lovers, love swings attach to the ceiling or a specially made frame. They elevate one partner above the bed or ground. This allows the other partner to have intercourse with them while standing, or oral sex while sitting up either in a regular chair or a wheelchair. Swings can work for sexually adventurous able-bodied couples as well as for lovers who are disabled. Swings can be extremely helpful if you have a sore back or neck and prefer to give oral sex while sitting comfortably. The best swing we have seen is lovingly made by Richard at loveswing.com. He is constantly revising and trying to improve his swings.
Motor Neurone Disease and Sexuality What you are looking for is "Information Sheet 20 - Sex and relationships" by the Motor Neurone Disease Association. Naturally, they made it impossible to give you a URL for the publication. So, you'll need to go to the MNDA website, put the word "sex" in the search box, and the first result should be a link for the pdf of Info Sheet 20.
Multiple Sclerosis & Sexuality A pamphlet you can download from the National Multiple Sclerosis Society.
Multiple Sclerosis and Sex--An Excellent and Helpful Video This 7-minute video from healthvideo.com is surprising in the amount of practical and helpful information that it offers.
Multiple Sclerosis and Sex--MS vs. Good Sex A article by Martha King in the Summer 2008 edition of Momentum, the Magazine of the National MS Society.
Multiple Sclerosis Society UK-Sex and Relationships MS and sexual and intimate relationships.
Nerve.com Sex and Disability Issue You’ll need to be a premium subscriber to have access to this archive.
Outsiders A vibrant social and peer support network of disabled people. Located in the UK, The Outsiders is home of a Sex and Disability Helpline, The Sexual Health and Disability Alliance and The V-Group where disabled women around the UK discuss their sexual relationships, body image, impairment, pain, sexual communication, acceptance and knowledge. As long as the wonder Dr. Tuppy Owens is involved, the Outsiders will have much to offer.
Queer and Deaf Queer and can't hear? "Where deaf queers proudly make their home in cyberspace."
Parkinson's Disease and Sex This article is by Yvonne Fulbright, Ph.D.
Patty Berne's Sins Invalid: Sex, art and disability Give this video a few minutes. Patty Berne has a lot of interesting things to say. She founded a performance group that looks at sex and disability.
Sclerodoma Resources Sclerodoma is a rare form of arthritis. It can affect the skin, blood vessels, and/or internal organs This is an extensive list of articles on sex and sclerodoma from Sclero.org.
(Sex)abled: Disability Uncensored A 14-minute documentary by San Francisco State University students from a panel called "Are Cripples Screwed?" which was sponsored by the UC Berkeley's Disabled Students Union. Bay area community members and comedian Josh Blue (winner of Last Comic Standing) share their personal experiences with sex, dating and intimacy.
Sex and Amputees Here's the website for a book written by an amputee. It seems to be well written and well received by people who are amputees.
Amputees and Intercourse A brief but very upbeat interview with About.com's Cory Silverberg.
Sex and Heart Disease According to the British Heart Foundation, heart attack sufferers are very unlikely to die during sex as long as your partner looks like Margaret Thatcher and you can climb up and down two flights of stairs briskly without symptoms (such as chest pain or breathlessness). All bets are off if you are fooling around with your 24-year old secretary, no matter how many flights of stairs you can do. Click here to order a 16-page brochure from the American Heart Association on having sex after a heart attack or heart surgery.
Sexual Device Manual for Persons with Disabilities Occupational Therapists Edith MacHattie and Kate Naphtali have put together this very thorough manual that includes research, clinical expertise and product information. It is intended for health care professionals and their clients with various disabilities. Download a .pdf of this free manual from the Disabilities Health Research Network website.
SCI-User's Guide for the Paralyzed Penis: Sex after spinal cord injury by Tre Trefethen. An insightful article; I highly suggest you read all of the reader comments as well. Most are by men with SCI or by able-bodied women who have male partners with SCI.
SCI-An Excellent Video This 59-miinute video starts slowly, but stay with it until Marca Sipski takes over, about 15 minutes into it. Marca Sipski is one of the world's top physician-researchers in SCI and sexuality. You'll immediately feel comfortable with Dr. Sipski, and understand why the author of the Guide To Getting It On holds her in such high esteem. It would be a great help to anyone with an SCI to have a miniature Marca sitting on their shoulder, whispering in their ear.
SCI-Murderball A documentary about paraplegics who are world class athletes. Toward the end of the movie, they talk about sex. Highly recommended.
SCI--Wheels, Relationships and Sexuality A lot of up-close and personal questions on the reader forum at NewMobility.com.
SCI--Sexual Health after Brain and Spinal Cord Injury A nice-looking site developed by doctors and sexual health nurses at a hospital in Vancouver, Canada.
SCI and Undiagnosed Traumatic Brain Injury A thoughtful reminder including the impact on relationships by Stanley Ducharme, Ph.D., who is an expert in physical disability and rehabilitation.
Schizophrenia and Sex How often do you read an interview on sex with someone who has schizophrenia? Leave it to Nerve.com's Lisa Carver!
Seeing a Sex Surrogate An excellent article by a disabled man about his experience with a sex surrogate.
Stroke: Intimacy after Stroke Should be called "sex after stroke," but the Kiwi's say "intimacy" instead. Either way, this is a really helpful pamphlet about sex after stroke.
Stroke or Heart Attack Some friendly tips on sex after heart attack or stroke from the Heart and Stroke Foundation.
Sex after Stroke Here's a brochure from the American Stroke Association that discuses some of thel physicial challenges, sexual positions and alternative ways to make love if you've had a stroke and it's crimping your lovemaking style.
Sex after Stroke Illness From the Heart and Stroke people at Tayside in the UK.
Stroke Engine's Sex after Stroke Answers to some of the most commonly asked questions about having sex after stroke.
Stroke and Sex: Perspectives on poststroke sexual issues and rehabilitation needs Click on the PDF icon to get the full text of this study whose purpose is: "To study the perspectives and experiences of stroke survivors and partners of stroke survivors regarding sexual issues and perceived rehabilitation needs."
Stroke: Hope for Love: Practical Advice for Intimacy and Sex After Stroke This extensive and very practical article by Donald Kautz, which is for nurses, addresses the wide range of changes likely to occur in the patient and his or her partner
Stairlift Advisor While you might not want to have sex while sitting in your new stairlift--stairlifts can provide an important element of freedom and independence for someone who is stair-challened due to a stroke. This website from the UK provides helpful answers for stairlift questions.
Susan's Sex Support Site Susan's excellent website has a bit of something for everyone regardless of their specific disability.
Toys for People Into Kink and BDSM Who Are Disabled Adam and Gillian's Sensual Whips and Toys will make special adaptations of SM toys for those with limitations of movement. They can make their toys with special straps or handles so that someone with only partial arm or hand control can still wield it. If being disabled isn't pain enough, you'll find intricate SM torture devices from the "titty tower" to the "labia lifter." (888) 476-8697
Traumatic Brain Injury This takes you to our separate links-section on sexuality and traumatic brain injury.
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